Chapter 3-2: Control - Rewards

 

Chapter 3: Control

Entry 2: Rewards

Ultimately, when you’re looking to get control over someone you want to induce in them a subconscious understanding or desire to receive your approval or something from you that you can provide them. The goal is to make them emotionally dependent on you by inducing in them a desire to get your approval and or to get you to give them something they desperately need. This will keep them at your beckon call waiting for the next thing they can do for you.

Rewards will ultimately need to be used at some point to keep your target interested. The target can only sustain perpetual damage and emotional abuse for so long before they start to crack and take action or collapse.

You don’t want them to crack because if they crack they will become very dependent on you. They will be an emotional wreck and will find themselves in a state of learned helplessness, sounding like a blubbering baby that for helping to put them together and you’ll have to make a choice, do you want to serve this person or leave?

If you’re choosing leave like you should, then you may be prematurely leaving because you didn’t provide enough positive rewards back to them. It’s that or they caught on that you were the reason their life had suddenly become so difficult and they tossed you out, conversely they may have cracked and now they need you for emotional support as they maneuver through the black abyss of life failure.

  • Cautionary Note - if you are leaving and this person is having some type of a breakdown then you will look bad to everyone you know for having left them in the time of their need. You need to check out the section on Smear Campaigns in order to create your defense for this occasion. Remember, the best defense is a good offense.

In all cases if you want to keep them within your span of control you must keep alive their hope and you do that by providing them with affection periodically and with items that they want. The trick here is to not give them too often and to always leave them wanting.

Typically, the more abused or neglected they were as a child the more abuse they’ll tolerate as an adult so if you find a people pleaser that just keeps trying and trying no matter what then you’ve found yourself a good candidate because they will stick through the lows and will get addicted to the cycles of up and down. This will be further covered in the section for Intermittent Reinforcement.

When it comes to rewards it’s critical that you don’t over reward them. During the initial meeting time with them, if they are receptive to it then you want to drown them in affection, presents, favors, and good deeds. You will want to get them dependent on some aspect of what you are providing it and once they are attached then you’ll want to withdraw it.

So, if the target is someone that get’s their affirmation and bonding from sex then you’ll want to start withholding sex from them. This is typically a tactic that works better for females than it does for males but, if the target is unaware of why you’re with holding sex then it can be very effective for women as well especially if they are the type that needs to be validated through sex. You essentially want to put them into a position where you have something and only you have what they need - so you control the dose and the timing of their ‘drug’ so to speak. This will further enhance the dependence on you and give you more control.

You’ll withdraw it to keep them trying to get it back. They will put in more and more effort into getting that affection back or that thing back which will further feed into a need for your approval. The need for your approval will become the hitching point of their voluntary servitude as their identity will fuse with yours and you will become the center of their universe. This concept gets flushed out in the Erosion of Identity chapter.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Chapter 2-1: Self Esteem - Talents

Image
  Chapter 2: Self Esteem Entry 1: Talents To get control of your target you’ll also need to destroy their self esteem. By doing so you’ll accomplish a couple of different important defenses which will make them more open to being controlled. First, you’ll lower their own idea of what they are worth so they undervalue what they bring to the table and this will open the door for you to have them over value what you do. So, its important that you erode this in subtle ways that they cannot point directly to you having said anything at all to them or if they try to bring it up you can turn it on them and say that they are attacking you. Target their skills and ability and tell them that it’s never good enough. There is always a problem that you pick out and point out some flaw in what they are doing. This will start to plant the seeds that they are not actually all that talented and it will start to erode their desire to do these things which is critical to inducing dependence on you...
Read more

Chapter 3-1: Control - Loss Aversion

Image
Chapter 3: Control Entry 1: Loss Aversion One of the most effective means of controlling someone is to find out what they value that they have and then frame their behaviors in such a way as to state that if they do this behavior then they’ll lose what they have. So, if they were about to leave you then it might be a good time to start dropping the odd fact as to what they will lose by leaving. So, if you have control over the finances, or you own the property, you’ve been paying for their drugs, whatever the things that they need or depend on - you make them aware of the impending loss should they go. If they see a big consequence to them leaving then it will make them reconsider doing so. There are two loss types you can use Loss of something that they already have. This one is difficult because people start taking for granted what they have so it will take something pretty significant for it to really register the loss in such a way that it will make them stay, so use this only when...
Read more

Chapter 2-2 :Self Esteem - Fault

Image
Chapter 2:Self Esteem Entry 2: Fault In order to get control over your target you must use a good supply of focused gaslighting. The focused gaslighting will be directed at making sure that they feel as though they are the ones that are at fault. You have to relentlessly put the ideas into their mind that they are defective. They have to internalize this and they have to believe it. One effective method of getting that control over them is to make them think that they are a narcissist. A narcissist is something that is pretty universally agreed to as a bad person. Not many people look at the disorder from the clinical perspective so if you can make them doubt themselves and think that they are the narcissist then it’ll further break down their identity, their self esteem, and their sense of self. Only, you can’t get them to internalize this from telling them per se unless you can find a lot of outside sources that will tell them in discreet and subtle ways. What you need to do is to ge...
Read more