Chapter 2-1: Self Esteem - Talents

 

Chapter 2: Self Esteem

Entry 1: Talents

To get control of your target you’ll also need to destroy their self esteem. By doing so you’ll accomplish a couple of different important defenses which will make them more open to being controlled.

First, you’ll lower their own idea of what they are worth so they undervalue what they bring to the table and this will open the door for you to have them over value what you do. So, its important that you erode this in subtle ways that they cannot point directly to you having said anything at all to them or if they try to bring it up you can turn it on them and say that they are attacking you.

Target their skills and ability and tell them that it’s never good enough. There is always a problem that you pick out and point out some flaw in what they are doing. This will start to plant the seeds that they are not actually all that talented and it will start to erode their desire to do these things which is critical to inducing dependence on you.

State that other people have mentioned to you that the person isn’t very good at it or isn’t very talented so you start to utilize the idea of ‘social proof’. Social proof is the notion that if many people believe something or are on side for something then that must be true or accurate. If they internalize this then you’ll start to notice them doing that activity less and less.

Keep hammering on the idea that they don’t work hard enough. Keep telling them they aren’t doing enough or working hard enough - tell them this all the time. It’ll keep them striving to do more and it will start to make them emotionally dependent on you for validation. The more you can undermine their self esteem and the more they look to you for affirmation of doing a good job the more you control them.

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